Adding Insult To Injury.

I endured five years in an abusive relationship. I was 24 when I finally got away from my ex husband. It took a lot of courage to leave. To stand up and actually tell people what was going on. It took SO MUCH to get some of them to believe me. When people met me, or talked to me on a daily basis you would have never known that I was hiding such a dark secret. It is a part of my past that I'm not proud of. I'm more proud of myself for being able to leave and finally get away from him. Or so I thought. 

To this day, he is still screwing my life up. To this day I still have to try and clean everything up. Back when we were together, and/or married, he was horrible not just with how he treated me, but with money, secrets, eating, etc. He was all in all a terrible person. He over drafted our (my) bank account by $2000, and overcharged a credit card of mine by $500. I managed to pay them off while we were still together. I sent in my payments every month till it was all gone. OR SO I THOUGHT. 

It wasn't till a couple years ago that I learned that I still owed money on the bank account. He had gone out and cashed the last payment instead of sending in the money order. And that wasn't the only thing sneaky he was doing either. He hid paperwork and mail from me constantly. He had told me that he turned in the medicaid paperwork from my pregnancy in 2009, which would have written off that debt completely. It got denied a few weeks later. It wasn't until I was moving out of our last address together that I found the paperwork, folded up and shoved in a box in the closet. So frustrating. 

Today though, I'm writing because I'm heartbroken. Back in 2009 I had gone to a Dr for a consultation. I wanted to become pregnant. I didn't feel that Dr was a good fit for me, so I looked elsewhere. Fast forward to last week. I've been shopping around for a good dr. It landed me back in the same office, but with a different Dr. I LOVED this Dr. I was so happy after our visit. We had a plan.... HAD.

Yesterday I got a letter in the mail. It stated that I had a bill from them in collections from 2009. Due to the outstanding balance ($100... yippy skippy) I would no longer be able to see my new Dr. I called to see if there was a way around this. I explained my living situation, and told them about the sneaky side of my ex. I told them that had I known there was any sort of balance, I would have paid it off. Unfortunately I was unable to sway them to let me come back. Once again my ex has screwed me out of something I want. 

But what really gets me, is how unsympathetic the office was. Here I am, a previously abused woman, who's ex husband hid EVERYTHING from her. It's bad enough that I had to go through the abuse, now I'm having to deal with everything after the fact to.